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Hip Hip Hooray! To new body parts and moving forward

Running to the Seattle Mariners game in the 1980s.

Mark Funk # 63

For 45 years, my husband’s left hip did its job without complaint. It allowed him to play multiple sports in high school and survive four years as the smallest guard on the Oak Harbor football team. It helped him chase stories for three newspapers, play co-rec soccer into his thirties, run countless 10K races and complete one marathon. It even tried to swivel through a Latin dance class (my idea).

After we adopted the first of our two sons from Korea, that hip served as a baby bouncer and child seat. It was during a nature hike with two-year-old Casey riding on his shoulders that Mark felt the first twinge of what would become 17 years of pain.

He didn’t think much of it at the time, but the pain didn’t go away. It got worse, radiating down his left leg at predictable points that made us all suspect his back and a pinched sciatic nerve. He went to the doctor, who ordered an MRI of his lower spine. It showed nothing out of the ordinary.

Meanwhile, the pain bounced around from hip to knee to shin to ankle like a trickster. A cortisone shot in his knee brought only temporary relief. He tried physical therapy and acupuncture. I got him to try yoga. Nothing seemed to help, and some things made it worse.

Eventually the pain became chronic and debilitating, disrupting his sleep . . . and mine.  The man who used to love to run now balked at taking a walk. No wonder. When he did, his limp made me wince.

“How’s your leg?” I’d ask him.

“It hurts.”

“You’ve got to do something about this, force the doctors to get to the bottom of it,” I said. “This is a quality-of-life issue.”

I complained more about his pain than he did. I wanted some semblance of our active life back, but our needs kept getting swept aside by the more immediate needs of our children and our aging parents – the classic sandwich.

Then came not one, but two, big wake-up calls: Mark’s blood pressure was dangerously high, according to the machine at our local Bartell Drug Store. I urged him to go in for a physical, which confirmed the hypertension and revealed signs of something else: prostate cancer.

Prostate cancer is common in men of a certain age, and usually treatable. It also happens to run in Mark’s family, but his relatives beat it, so I was optimistic that his treatment would be similarly successful.

Still, I had an eerie feeling watching my husband’s skeleton appear on a monitor while he got a full-body scan to check for cancer outside the prostate. As the machine worked its way down to his groin, his left hip emerged as a cloudy white blob. I immediately thought, oh my God, the cancer has spread to his hip, but the technician set me straight: not cancer, inflammation.

Fast forward a year. With his blood-pressure under control and a so-far successful treatment for prostate cancer, we both agreed it was past time to revisit the leg-pain issue. X-rays and another MRI, this time of the inflamed left hip, showed bone-on-bone arthritis. On a scale of one to 10, with 10 being the worst he’s ever scene, the orthopedic surgeon said Mark’s hip was a seven or eight.

A complete replacement was in order.

Mark had the surgery June 7. We spent a day in the hospital. A shout-out to the fabulous folks at Swedish Medical Center-Issaquah: Thank you for making our stay as pleasant as possible.  Former reporter that he is, Mark got to know each and every nurse, attendant and therapist and their family backgrounds. Our diverse crew of caregivers hailed from Korea, Kenya, the Ukraine and India.

Given that his new friends were kinder and gentler than our sons were likely to be, Mark wanted to stay in the hospital an extra day. But his physical therapist –a buff and jocular Korean man — told him insurance wouldn’t cover avoiding teenagers. Mark had already demonstrated the he could walk with the aid of a walker, go up and down a small set of mock stairs, and get in and out of a mock car. He was good to go.

In the week we’ve been home, he’s gotten progressively more mobile, graduating from walker to cane and striding less and less like Frankenstein’s monster. On Monday, we took the three-block walk to Roosevelt High school and back, no problem. He’s still on morphine, so we can’t be sure that the hip replacement completely fixed his leg pain, but we’re hopeful.

Getting back to a new normal will take time. We’ll never return to playing soccer and running 10ks. Those days are gone for both of us. But I definitely see some bike rides in our future.

Speaking of moving forward, I have my own news. I can’t spill the details yet because I don’t know them myself, but I think I’ve found a publisher for my novel. Stay tuned for updates.

In the meantime, if you have a hip- or knee-replacement story — and it seems that most everyone does — please feel free to share it below. I’d love to hear from you!

Race photo credit: W. McNeely
Football photo credit: Wallie Funk

 

 

 

11 things I’m thankful for

 

 

  1. My health. I have all of my senses and most of my marbles. I can experience all the colors, aromas, tastes and textures this world has to offer and process them in this brain of mine. Physically, I’m relatively fit, though my knees are arthritic and my blood pressure is a little high (a combination of genetics and living with teenagers).
  2. My sons. Casey, 17, and Charlie, 15, keep me humble and challenged and every now and then show the love I know is hiding under all that surliness and bravado. Seriously, they’ve have made my life so much richer and more interesting . . . well, except for those three hour-plus Pony League baseball games.
  3. My dog. When my sons are acting like teenagers, I have Ben, who appreciates me no matter what and eagerly returns my affection.
  4. My husband, Mark Funk. (Okay, this list is NOT in order of significance.) He supports me and my writing in every way, reading endless drafts, giving me time, shuttling boys to innumerable practices and games, and working in a job that actually makes money. I don’t deserve him. I really don’t.
  5. My friends. The women in my triathlon-training and singing groups as well as my writing buddies (Anne Leigh Parrish, in particular) – you all make my life healthier, more fulfilled and balanced. Together, you’re one giant sanity pill in this crazy world, and I can’t thank you enough.
  6. My beta readers, particularly Anne, Steve Kink, India Bock, Gabe Castillo, Kay Rae Chomic and Rebecca Alexander. Anne, Steve, Kay and Rebecca are fellow writers. Gabe and Rebecca are old high school friends. India is my teenage neighbor who loves to read. All of you are busy, and I was audacious enough to ask you to read a draft of a novel in your spare time.
  7. My neighbors. Particularly Bob and Vicki Bock, parents of India and Pierce and a labradoodle named Athena. We are in this village together, trading stories and tips, helping with transportation and recreation, sharing laughter, angst, house keys and the occasional recipe ingredient. You’re the best.
  8. My home. I’m lucky to live in a nice house in a progressive city in a country that is free. My boys are getting a good public education (both are attending my alma mater, Roosevelt High School. Go, Roughriders!). They have easy access to ocean beaches, mountain trails, rain forests and desert – all in one amazing state. They have never known real hunger, tyranny or war except for what they read in their textbooks and hear about on the news.
  9. My public library. Books open our lives to different people, places and experiences. They broaden our world and make us more empathetic. For this reader and writer, the local library is an invaluable resource, a literary lifeline.
  10. My diversions. Seriously, what would we do without sports, music, arts, crafts, and the occasional on-line Scrabble game? We’d all go insane.
  11. My hopes and dreams. My life is secure enough that I have the luxury of thinking beyond survival. I have reasonable hopes of publishing a novel, of sending my children to college, of living into an active, happy and healthy old age. And really, what more could I ask for? I am blessed.

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

credit for photo on right: Bob Bock